In an Op-Ed for Time, Amber Rose poured out her heart like never seen before. She wrote on having to endure
the judgement of others and constantly explaining herself. She revealed
she has gotten over caring what people think and has chosen instead to
just be herself. She wrote the piece a day after her tweet fight with
Kanye. Read below...
"Ever since high school, I’ve been called a slut. All the
boys were attracted to me—that wasn’t my fault! Then, when I started
getting famous, the shaming got even worse.
All these messed up stories
came out about me, and I was like, “That’s not true! I’m not that kind
of girl!” But even things I had done—things a man would never be judged
for—got me lots of hate.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d go
out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people
would say, “Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants with guys.”
Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say,
“He’s the man! That’s so cool.” So when I went on a date, I’m a whore,
and when he’s piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something
wrong here.
It wasn’t just men saying these types of things. There were
a lot of women saying hateful things to me. I was getting torn down
constantly. But in the past year, I’ve just started not caring.
People would actually say things like, “Who would ever love
you? You were a stripper. Why are you in relationships?” And I used to
feel like I had to explain that maybe it was because I’m a good person.
But I realized that I can’t make everyone believe. And I
can’t talk to everyone and tell them who I really am. They’re still
going to have their own opinions. If you know me, you love me. If you
don’t know me, you might love me, but you might not—and that’s cool. And
you know what? Now I sleep like a baby at night.
It wasn’t even that hard to stop caring what other people
thought. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have a boyfriend so I didn’t
have to care about anyone else’s feelings or protect anyone’s heart. I
thought, “This is my life. This is about me. If you don’t like it, I
don’t care. I’m going to do anything and everything I want with my own
life.”
What I’ve realized is that, when you care too much, you’re not living at
your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say,
that’s when you really start living. It’s such an amazing feeling. It’s
about loving who you are, owning who you are and knowing that it’s O.K.
to live your life how you want to live it. We’re all human, which means
we’re not all perfect. It’s so cool to think that I might help women
think about who they want to be and then encourage them to be that
person with no remorse. I want to help women just be happy in their own
skin.
So please: Before you judge someone—especially another
woman—put yourself in her shoes and also look at your past. That’s what a
lot of women fail to do. They’re so quick to call another girl names,
but it’s like: You know what? There may have been a time where you
looked back and said, “I probably shouldn’t have done that.” Does that
make you a ho? No, it makes you a human."
